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βYou would be so much prettier if you smiled.β |
β A caption that the writer Nicole Tersigni used in a wildly popular Twitter thread |
This story begins, as so many do these days, on Twitter. |
Last May, Nicole Tersigni, a Detroit-based writer, logged onto the social media platform at the end of a long day. She was tired and frazzled from looking after her 8-year-old daughter, who was home sick at the time. |
βSo I go online just to kind of scroll through Twitter and zone out for a little bit,β she said, βand I see a dude explaining to a woman her own joke back to her β something that has happened to me many times.β |
In the past, Tersigni had let those kinds of irritating conversations go, but this one sparked something in her. She Googled βwoman surrounded by menβ (βbecause that is what that moment feels like when youβre online,β she said) and stumbled upon a 17th-century oil painting by Jobst Harrich of a woman baring one breast in the middle of a scrum of bald men. |
In another post, Tersigni placed an 18th-century painting titled βConversation in a Parkβ by Thomas Gainsborough next to the caption, βyou would be so much prettier if you smiled,β turning what seems like a vignette of a man flirting with a woman into a laugh-out-loud scene. |
She kept tweeting, and her posts went viral, garnering tens of thousands of likes and retweets, including by the actors Busy Philipps (βTHIS THREAD IS GENIUS,β she proclaimed) and Alyssa Milano (βMight be my all time favorite thread everβ) β a platform-specific indication that Tersigni had playfully captured everyday instances of misogyny that many women found uncomfortably familiar. |
βIt just snowballed from there because it was just so easy to consume and relate to and laugh about,β Tersigni said. (Several men chimed in to explain her joke to her or point out that not all men do these things.) |
Within days, an agent got in touch, suggesting she turn her tweets into a book. Two weeks later, they were meeting with editors, Tersigni said, and struck a deal with Chronicle Books. |
Just over a year after that first tweet, Tersigniβs vision will leap from social media to print with βMen to Avoid in Art and Life,β to be released on Tuesday. |
Each chapter of the coffee table book, which brings together works of art and razor-sharp captions, explores the different βtypesβ of men that Tersigni and many women encounter on a regular basis. She describes five of them, with some examples from pop culture, here. |
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βThe mansplainer explains things in a condescending way,β Tersigni said. βTheir thoughts are always unsolicited. Nobody is asking for them. One of my favorite jokes that I used in the thread and also in the book for the mansplainer is, βLet me explain your lived experience.ββ |
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Concern trolls approach women with a sense of worry about something they are saying or doing, but it isnβt sincere, Tersigni said. βThey use their faux worry to undermine or criticize you.β |
Think Gaston from βBeauty and the Beast,β who feigns concern for Belleβs well being when he sees her with a book (βItβs not right for a woman to read. Soon she starts getting ideas β and thinking!β). |
In the real world, Tersigni said, βTheyβll say things like, βI agree with your point, but you shouldnβt use that tone or youβll alienate your audience.ββ |
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The Comedian is not just someone who tells jokes. He is the unfunny person who is convinced of his funniness, βbut if you donβt laugh at his jokes, which are really tired, sexist, racist jokes, itβs because you just donβt understand comedy or you need to get a sense of humor,β Tersigni said. |
βTodd Packer, from βThe Office,β is a great example of this guy,β she added. βHe tells the worst jokes and gets so mad when people donβt like him that he gives them laxative cupcakes.β |
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This is what you call the heterosexual man who believes he has all the answers when it comes to women and sex. βThe sexpert thinks he knows your body better than you do,β Tersigni said. βThey think they know whatβs going on with you internally.β |
βHarry, from βWhen Harry Met Sally,β is a total sexpert,β she added, something that Meg Ryanβs character, Sally, finds so annoying that it leads to her memorable performance at Katzβs Deli in New York City. |
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A close relative of the Concern Troll, Patronizers minimize women by harping on their (imagined) feelings. βThe patronizer uses your emotions as weapons against you and makes you feel small, so that he can feel big,β Tersigni said. βThat guy will say things like βI canβt talk to you if youβre going to be hysterical,β which is like nails-on-the-chalkboard annoying.β |
Today is Black Womenβs Equal Pay Day β the number of days into 2020 that Black women had to work to earn what their white male counterparts earned last year. |
That it takes Black women eight extra months is especially sobering this year, in the midst of the pandemic, where many Black women are on the front lines, working in jobs that the rest of the country depends on more than ever. |
62 cents: The amount that Black women working full-time, year-round make for every dollar paid to white, non-Hispanic males. |
1 in 3: The number of Black women who are working essential jobs in the pandemic, such as health aide, child care worker or cashier. |
$941,600: The amount that Black women stand to lose over the course of a 40-year career owing to the gender racial pay gap. |
In Her Words is written by Alisha Haridasani Gupta and edited by Francesca Donner. Our art director is Catherine Gilmore-Barnes, and our photo editor is Sandra Stevenson. |
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